Esjay the Dreamer

Esjay the Dreamer is a rope teacher and performer in Seattle with a background in circus and flow arts, and one of the moderators of Rope In Seattle, the city’s rope events guide. Esjay’s Rope In Seattle profile gives they/them pronouns; a 2025 Pan Eros Foundation listing gives they/she.

Circus and performance

The Rope In Seattle profile describes movement and physical fitness as central to Esjay’s life and as something carried into rope practice. Esjay performs aerial and flow disciplines with other circus partners and performs shibari as a duo with the Seattle rigger Nerves of Purple (Dan). The two state a shared aim of promoting shibari as a movement and performing art. In April 2026 they led Performance Basics for Rope Bondage, a two-hour workshop at Emerald City Trapeze Arts (ECTA) for floor or suspension acts, solo or in groups. It dealt with performance archetypes, developing a personal movement style and emotional expression through movement, and taught no specific ties.

Teaching

Esjay and Dan are listed as the organizers of a drop-in Beginner Shibari class held on alternating Tuesday evenings at ECTA, a circus school. The listing says the class teaches basic ties that can be combined into larger shapes and treats rope as a movement and acrobatic art, with emphasis on flow, aesthetics and partner connection. It is set up as a non-kink environment for people who want to learn rope as a performing art or for private practice. At ECTA the pair also run the ECTA Shibari Jam, an open-gym session with hard points for practicing existing skills and sharing technique, which the listing describes as a practice space rather than a play party.

With the Pan Eros Foundation, Esjay and Dan teach Bondage for Beginners at Gallery Erato in Seattle, a three-hour introduction held in August 2025 and June 2026, with further dates listed for 2027. The class concentrates on a small number of versatile ties together with consent, negotiation, safewords and aftercare, and includes live demonstrations and a printed handout.

Esjay also offers private lessons. The Rope In Seattle profile describes the teaching as centered on nourishing the body and the emotions and on keeping rope playful and fun.