Power exchange

The consensual handing of control from one person to another in play or a relationship; rope teachers describe being tied as an exchange of power that rests on trust.

Power exchange means one person consensually giving another control, for a scene or within a relationship. Wikipedia’s Glossary of BDSM treats D/s as play or relationships in which power is handed over on a psychological level. Anatomie Studio calls shibari fundamentally an exchange of power, since letting someone tie you takes considerable trust, and points to Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent as a way to examine power in any relationship and make sure what is exchanged is consensual. Rope 365 (Ebi McKnotty) adds a caution: dynamics such as D/s, teacher and student, or money between partners can make it harder for someone to speak up, so confirming consent takes extra care.

Sources

  1. Shibari terminology: a guide to rope bondage vocabulary — Anatomie Studio (Kink and Cuddles)
  2. Consent and Communication — Rope 365 (Ebi McKnotty)
  3. Glossary of BDSM — Wikipedia